Why Am I Still Single?
A potential candidate to be a lifelong lover asked me, why am I still single? Yeah, I wonder why...
A conversation with a closed friend eventually flashed back when I asked him, "Am I a good catch?". "Yes" he replied.
I know that I'm a good catch, but I can't help but wonder why potential lovers keep their distance from me? Then we came up to a lot of possibilities why. Of all those things, one thing really made sense, they're afraid of me. I know it sounds silly but it's a big possibility. For the past few relationships I've had and several flings, I just realized how passionate I am in handling things. Especially if I'm into it, I really put everything I have, all my energy, enthusiasm, courage, beliefs, knowledge, soul, love, strength, my life, believing that it is essential to nourish my connection to it.
This is true on everything, I give my all if I'm so interested on a particular endeavor, if I have a certain goal, if I believe on some ideology, or if I'm so in love with someone. Because of this, I tend to "wow" them and eventually scare them at some point, especially to those who are not used to this kind of commitment. My friend explained; it is possible that because of this so called "behavior" of mine, they (the potential lovers) get really overwhelmed with what I could do, and what I could give. They get to the point of not knowing what to do with it or how to handle it. With my huge offer to them, they're not sure if they could give something even comparable to my offer. It's just like I've got so much to offer that they don't know if their heart could accommodate everything. That's why, they just opted to not pursue our future possibilities before they disappoint themselves. And I am left behind confused, clueless, hanging and wondering why. My reflexes will surely be telling me it's all my fault, that I did something wrong, that I did not do my part. Of course soon, I'll beat up myself to hell and will be stuck in a stage where confusion will always be confused, questions will not meet any answers, and endless strategies that will never work at all.
So after that quick memory flash in my head, I finally got an answer to the question that was asked to me by a "potential candidate to be a lifelong lover."
For a few seconds, he was silent... Then he said "let me try..."
baka nga....
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